We keep talking about wanting to be treated based on our worth, we have a neverending parade of quotes telling us what we are worth, how to set boundaries, and what to never settle for and it’s all become terrifyingly about me. Somehow we have moved from self-care and healthy mindsets into a world of narcissistic, idealistic and ‘honourably’ selfish perspectives.
But here’s the thing, how many of us truly treat OTHER people as they deserve and what they are truly worth? And isn’t what is worth a lot today worth less tomorrow? Even we don’t always know our worth or devalue ourselves.
Imagine a world where we treated people fairly with compassion, and consideration and justly fulfilling their rights no matter who they may be, family, friend, neighbour, subordinate, manager or stranger, millionaire or refugee. Imagine offering them that true value, security & sense of worth consistently.
Imagine showing them what their true value is no matter what mood we are in, how angry we may be or how happy we are with them. To show genuine appreciation and care, to speak full truths, to never take them for granted and offer support when they win, when they lose and when they falter.
When it’s about accepting their good and helping minimise their bad while really hearing them even when what they say and when what they choose is not ideal for us.
When it’s not about who wins but creating something valuable, something that inspires them to be better that fills their souls in ways we don’t understand.
Imagine we didn’t feel the need to deprive someone of that which they are deserving of so that we feel better about ourselves or make another feel secure with the people we have chosen, the lives that we seek to live and the people we have claimed to be ours.
Imagine we set them free of the expectation and obligations and they choose to be as we do and they too chose to fulfil our rights and duties to us? Would our traumas not be less, would we not be more secure? Would we not be more just and fair to others and would they not be with us? Would our rights not be fulfilled? Would we not appreciate our own value as much as we do theirs? Would we not be more united?
How many of us will choose to do anything for the sake of Allah and love for Allah but only on our terms and only if it’s something that we want in our way even if the alternative is to benefit all? How many of us are willing to talk about justice in oppression and war yet fail to recognise that justice is more, it’s being fair to all, respect, it’s care, and stepping up for one and all, for we are all linked? The impact on one affects all. And justice for one should be justice for all.
